Jul 28 2009
Making Friends
One of the most difficult things in life is probably one of the simplest: making friends, I know it sounds weird because in life we get friends without even noticing, we rarely take a look or examine deeply the socialization dynamics that goes up to final product when we can call someone or friend. I never thought how complex was making a friend before, we only tend to think that if the person has similar interest as ours then we can become friends but is not that easy, we rarely tend to look on the personalities if see if we can match as friends beyond our common interests until is too late and have someone who is a friend in theory but we can stand up a single bit because he or she are annoying to hell (It has happened to me sometimes, the first was in high school and the second one was with a girl of El Salvador (luckly the second case was on Internet only)).
Many of us tend to feel very lonely when we move into a new places because for us we can be shy sometimes or we don’t know how too meet people with common interest as we are living in a new places with a new set of rules. I been using the Internet in the past months to meet new people with similar hobbies as mine, probably after 8 long months I have found two group of people who one enjoy theme parks and the other role play games, which I can call my friends sometime in the near future;maybe I’m picky, maybe I’m not, I’m just trying to find people who I can hang out with, without getting bored two hours later; and yes there are other groups of people I like to meet sometime soon, in someway I’m not shy to meet new people, probably after 25 years of existence I haven’t put in practice my social skills for the last 10 years which I had a steady group of friends before moving to another country. Now I’m thinking on other thing, one friend from high school who moved to the exact city as me he hadn’t too much problems meeting new people, but he has his story and background and I have mine, I guess I will keep trying I know time and effort will give me the answers I’m looking for.
